My family is just the opposite, we talk and over think everything! We do care about and help each other with good advice, although we laugh about how none of us use that good advice to help ourselves. (That’s a totally different issue!)

And, yes, my mother is very judgmental and won’t “approve” of anything we do that doesn’t meet her values and she’ll loudly let us know. But, then we do what we want anyway.

When I was 4, I got hold of a book of matches and lit them, and got caught doing it. My mother turned on the store burner, not super hot, and had me put my fingers on it to feel what getting burnt would feel like, and so I’d never play with fire again. That’s just an early example I could think of that taught me to think for myself. Good parenting, IMHO.