Hello Zehm: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!

P.S. I also have no diagnosis although I've been kicking around the mental health system where I live for going on 20 years now. Anger is a big problem for me too. And I have thought there was a time in my life (I'm an older person now) when I could possibly have been diagnosed with BPD. I've been told that BPD tends to burn itself out as a person ages. So that's possibly what happened to me. Anyway... I hope that coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support & that, somehow, you are able to find the real-life help you need as well.