Thanks so much for this idea. However, I have tried to give my daughter something to do and she will just not do it whether I expect it of her or not. I have told her I expect her to do her own laundry, she doesn't and it is all over the bathroom floor overflowing from the hamper. Then I go in and do it because I can't stand it. I suppose I should just leave it which I did once. And when I did that she just moves it to on top of the washer and leaves it there. So now it is in the way of me doing my wash. I am about ready to just throw it in a tub in the garage, but then the kids wouldn't have any clothes either. I have separated the kids clothes from hers before and just done the kids laundry. I just hate to make drama in the house because then that stresses me out.

Our daughter struggles with sleeping too. She has been up now over 48 hours without sleep. Not good for her. She just can't sleep sometimes. And when she does sleep, she sleeps during the day and is up at night. She has always tended to be that way with her sleep, starting when she was just a kid.

She uses her ADHD as an excuse for "forgetting" to do what I asked her to do. It may be true, but it just seems very convenient that she doesn't try to to anything around the house. Or she says it makes her anxiety react for her to be put on a "time frame" to get something done. She can't handle it she says. So I am going to be very patient and go very slowly with her and just know I have an adult daughter I have to take care of for now. And I guess it doesn't help that I am the kind of person who sees something that needs to get done and I just do it. I am not as on top of things as I was when I was younger, but that is the way I am. I have my limits and once the house gets so cluttered or dirty I have to clean it. My daughter doesn't have that limit that I know of.

We talked to her yesterday about getting on state benefits for a food card and health insurance for her and the kids. And how it would really help us financially. She said she can't do that. It has never been a matter of applying and getting it done. She says something always makes it a big hassle that takes two months to get it done and her anxiety can't take that, so she refuses to do that again.

We did have nice talks yesterday about her desires in the living arrangements here. We are going to have to learn to set some boundaries with her for sure. I feel like we are caught between a rock and a hard place. Everything she needs costs lots of money we just don't have. So we are stuck.

Thanks for letting me vent.....