I think only stuff from inside your relationship can fix you, not outside it like another child.

My husband just said to me as he was walking by, "This is nice." I asked what was and he explained, "living by the water, being retired and not having to go to work, reading the morning paper on my laptop. . ." in the sweats he sleeps in. Then he went upstairs to get dressed. That's our day, sharing how we're feeling, what we're doing, telling each other little stories about what we're learning or reading or, if we go out, what happens to us, what we "find", laughing together. It was similar when we were each working only we had slightly more "exciting" stories to tell each other because of our different days at work.

I think you all have to connect with each other in small, basic ways and I would think an additional child would make that harder to do?