I think it can go both ways. I feel like my t has adapted to me but I have also adapted to him too. I know he had adhd so I do my best to be patient with his squirrelly moments until he settles in and gives me his full attention. He just needs a moment. Also, I have learned where he is flexible and where he is not. His flexibility can be pretty astounding which makes his harder boundaries not easy to understand even in context. I had to learn what he means by certain expressions and sayings.