LC, I loved the idea of the trash as of a symbol of MC giving you a place to put your tears. He seems really on and tuned in .

in this session too, your H seems awesome- really funny and interactive. It also strikes me, as it has in the past, that triangle/ triangling helps you manage the one on one stress between you and one of the other people when it gets too intense. MC was deployed in a triangle with you and new T bc the stress ramped up; MC wasn't in play when the stress between you and new T was low overcome- able.

I learned about triangling from Dr. Peter Kramer in the book called Should You Leave? , which sounds like and advice or self help book, but is actually so full of teaching about Family Systems Therapy, attachment, and relationships .

One thing that came through was the longstanding nature and complexity of your relationship to MC. He definitely cares