The idea behind the personality disorders diagnosis is, if early childhood trauma happened, then one is more likely to develop the disorder.

I did not walk around thinking I was traumatized in my youth at all. I never would have gone to a therapist about any of those events.

But when the trauma blew up in my marriage, the therapists ask my history, and then they make their case for me meeting criteria.

So say your gf has had all these hallmarks, too... does that give her a free pass to act like such a B to you and you will take it? I say ‘no way’.

I want to know why you don’t get angry at her, and would even continue to think about pursuing her. I guess you so liked the woman she seemed to be in the beginning before she started abusing you over money. But, there’s something too naive about you here that is concerning.