Yes, back & forth & people where I live now wonder why after 10 years if living 2100 miles away in my own farm I am just now working with a good lawyer & FINALLY getting my divorce.

Just kike MrMoose said, the financial entanglements can cause total distruction if persued at the wrong time. Before, the divorce would have FORCED bankruptcy & I woyld have kost my farm & my freedom because our marital home was upside down & there was no assets to counter the debt except my fsrm even though it was from inheritance & NEVER in the Cslufornia marriage assets. The can if worms & legal aspect of dealing with it at that time would have been destructive.

Time ket the debts drop off the scene & now just tje house remains & it now is no longer upside down. Only thing still updide down is my H's brain...nothing new about that. Now is the time to get the divorce & wash my hands of him completely.

There is a comibg together of emotional & financial issues that really define the breaking point though my breaking point was LONG before I left or I eouldn't have had all the suicide attempts thinking at the time it was my only way to escape....we NEVER KNOW what tje future holds....but seeing the big picture & using wise mind helps us to execute the plan for making our moves at judt the right time....it is sort of like a chess game in a way.