Patty,

Isn't it amazing how hard it is for us to let go of the things that we know are wrong for us in our lives. One little glimmer of hope....just a simple word, & I'm back wondering if I'm being too critical, or doing the right thing by stopping the marriage.

What I have realized is that I have to just make up my mind....come to a final conclusion & just GO WITH IT, knowing that is will be the right thing because I know deep down inside that there is no use trying to keep something going that is a waste of my energy, emotions & my time.

But I know when I come to that final conclusion....I am going to make it & go with it.....sometimes that is just what we have to do.....not look back & not have regrets because it's just the RIGHT thing to do.

I only have guy friends.....& never once would allow myself to get into any romantic situation with them...whether my marriage was happy or rocky at the time or not.....but then again, I am not one that needs romantic relations for fullfillment. I find that when one goes there, they leave themselves open to very dangerous situations & possible very wasted emotions that aren't anywhere close to being reality.

I know that you are getting a fullfillment out of the relationship, otherwise you wouldn't continue it the way you are doing......but you honestly aren't being fair to yourself or his wife, letting him cross over those boundaries with you......I know this is my personal value system & others are quite different, therefore I can not judge what is right for you....I know well how different we look at these things from our past conversations.

This is just something to think about when you allow a married man to get involved with you emotionally & send you emails you telling you he loves you & misses you with a poem.

Debbie