IMO, in all kinds of healthy relationships, each partner "adjusts" to the other. Part of being a good partner or friend or T or client is learning to ask for what you want, which is pretty opposite of expecting someone to read your mind. And part of being a good partner is giving your partner what they want as long as that works for you. "Stay home every evening and never go out with your friends, sit next to me on the couch while I read my book" might be something asked for but it's hard to imagine how that couldn't be anything but co-dependence on the part of the person who agrees. However, if what's asked for is to stay in next Friday night to celebrate our anniversary, that's both a reasonable request and seems like most people would be willing to do that rather than engage in the opposite problem of denying someone everything they ask for. I think good partners (at least for me) are those who make an attempt to give me what I ask for, and communicate around the issues of what we want. "Tell me what I can do to be helpful to you today" was something we used to ask each other fairly regularly. I'd do what I could to be helpful as long as it didn't compromise what I needed for myself.

I have asked my T to adjust for me, including moving his chair further away and to not let silences drag on for too long. He moved his chair and he jumps in faster for silences. There are other things, too, where I've had to adjust, where he said he wasn't good at doing what I asked (then he demonstrated he was no good, and I said yeah don't do that).