The two people involved in any relationship should adjust to each other. Otherwise it won't work. I adjust to the needs of my friends, my partner and my boss. I don't see why a T should not adjust to some of my needs.

But, as in any other relationship, there are things that should be adjusted, and others that should not. I won't adjust to the extend of not being myself anymore for anyone and neither should a T. But adjusting small things like say not mention a certain thing around a friend because they don't like that, this is fine.