I guess the best thing is honesty with each other, and with ourselves.

If you gave some time to him in hopes he’d come around and focus his love on you, but he hasn’t, then you’d serve yourself best to tell the truth. “I have romantic feelings for you, I don’t want to be just a friend.” Then you stop doing things with him and go find someone who has mutual feelings for you.

I think some people like keeping others hanging on, it strokes his ego perhaps? Yes, this grown man should have not made dates with the OP that are misleading while saying he is not interested. He should have been kind enough to not give mixed messages.

And you, Msilva, are responsible to yourself and your happiness. Don’t let someone string you along for too long.

You’ve done nothing wrong. You were totally honest with him about your feelings, and hung in a little while to hope he’d reciprocate, but he didn’t. Further telling you about his love for another woman is him only rubbing salt in the wound. Of course you don’t want to hear about that!

Doesn’t it hurt to be pining for someone who says they don’t want you? Why hurt yourself like that?