So sorry about the cold issue , RR. It helps show why you feel unwelcome by your T, but I agree she is probably germ-averse with everyone. I adore my nieces, but I can get kind of phobic if they both have colds , though the difference is I suck it up lol, and dont let it show for fear of hurting their feelings. The reason I think it helps show why you might feel unwelcome, is that most people have a warmer and friendlier response to such things, and can grasp / empathize with someone whose feelings are hurt by being left out due to illness. She sounds a little self-absorbed or a little chilly, but I dont think it is bc you are a second class client; could it be many/ most people feel that way around her?

My T comes to session with a cold somewhat often; he has little kids and allergies. He is allergic to dogs, and I live with several coated dogs so I try to be really, really careful about my clothing. If I have a cold, I definitely still go to my session and to work. Like mentioned above, my T doesn't touch clients ever, so I dont see it as very risky either way. We commiserate about colds I guess.