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Originally Posted by bizi
wild cyote, am so sorry that your brother does this to you.
I know that it is his coping mechanism it just is not fair to you.
Maybe when he is more stable you can have a heart to heart conversation or bring him into therapy if he would go with you.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi  |
Thanks!
He always says no to therapy, as does his wife. He knows the whole family has triggers on this topic. He does this to get financial help, even though he and his wife make almost 200% of the recent national average income. They mismanage their finances. He's been doing this for years. My dad did this for years, too, and people stopped responding.
Possible trigger:
That's when my dad took his life. So even though a person threatens repeatedly and for years, you just never know when it may be this time.
I try to get with family and make a plan to get him to stop feeling suicidal, and stop making those types of calls. I try to give him advice on how to get out of the financial bind. He has many options yet and I help him to outline his options. Trouble is: He wants a "bail out" by someone instead of changing their budget, etc. While his anxiety is truly very high, a part of this is very manipulative. I care, and this sucks.
I am hoping H and I can go to a movie tonight or do something for distraction. This shakes me up.
Thanks, everyone, for the support.
WC