I can’t imagine someone keeping lists of what I say to try to catch me in a lie. How awful for you.

This is a terrible relationship. This man is an abuser.

It sounds like he’s insecure with his masculinity. Why didn’t he just marry a virgin, if that’s what was so important to his values? Why fall in love with a ‘slut’ only to shame her? Then he wants to hear the details of your sex acts? He has a battle raging within him between his idea of good and evil.

What is it about him that you are so taken with? What makes him so great?

I never admitted to my husband the true number I had of former lovers. I stopped counting...