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Originally Posted by here today
Thanks, but I do not think I can find such a person. Perhaps it's the well of anger and resentment toward them at this point -- it's like none of them can tolerate it, and although I can "turn it off" -- really, I can -- what's the point of that? If I were to talk to a therapist about my week, what went wrong, what went right, in that state, it would be just "people-pleasing" and would not include the "influence" of the cut-off parts on any negative thinking. I would not be being a whole, integrated person, parts of me would not be there in the interaction.
I also disagree with the implication of your last 3 statements, and specifically I disagree with the last: "They can not make you happy or enjoy life. Non of them can. That is all on you."
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It says they can NOT make you happy.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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