Thanks AY, that totally helps. I would absolutely be all over my therapist if she waited more than a year to do some learnin' about my background, and then only because another client showed up. No way could I let that go. Even with the cold thing, my therapist said she would do the same with her friends and family (not sure about the last part, but I appreciate the effort to show that we would all be equally rejected).

I have to say that it helps to just put it all out there and go back and forth about it. Every now and then, as we talked about other things during the phone session, I would add that I was still not over being hurt from the cold issue and she would mumble something about how she was hoping it had reduced some.

I wonder if you are like me in that you have to fight your way to a resolution or understanding? Like, my therapist seems to regret ever doing things that end up making me angry and I'm all no no no...let's keep going, I think I'm getting somewhere, getting to something I need to understand. That happened just now, in fact. It's like I have to hear myself wailing, hear the anger and then figure it out. I just need someone to withstand it on the other side, and for all my complaints lately, my therapist does do that.