I’m female with a male therapist too, and it definitely makes sharing sexual trauma more difficult. I don’t like to use the actual words to describe things, and often make him guess what I’m trying to say. I’ve wondered what’s normal to disclose also. As time goes on, I’ve begun to share more details, but only regarding one specific trauma we’ve discussed over and over. And even then I’ve left some details out. The others he still has no details on.
It’s weitd because even though I know it’s not the case, it almost feels inappropriate to share so much.