I am female with a male trauma T. He pretty much knows everything I know but I too do not use the real terms for describing things. I will say enough that he understands what happened. Sometimes, I write memories down and hand it to him. Physical sensations, pictures, feelings, thoughts. He does a great job of empathizing and making me aware that it was not my fault. It was not OK. He will sometimes describe it using the correct terms which makes me know he is not freaked out by what I have told him. He also knows that I have a lot more memories held by my young parts and there will be more to come. Sometimes those are the easiest to tell him because I only get bits and pieces at a time from them. I will share each puzzle piece as I learn it. Eventually, we both have the entire story for that memory.

I must admit that if I were seeing a female T I would probably describe things in more detail and use more appropriate words but I am happy with my male T. Personally, I think it means more coming from a male when he validates my abuse. I don't think I would feel the same level of validation from a female.