I have talked about it with both genders. It was harder for me to be open with a man about it but I also found it incredibly validating and just knowing that I could trust him and he wasn't going to hurt me, that he thought it was as horrible as I felt it was, that all helped with the healing. I struggled with the amount of detail to divulge bit I just asked how much I could or should say. In both instances I was told there are no limits but it helped to hear that.