Des, it seems to me you keep looking for outside influences to make your marriage a happy, better one. It would be best if you worked on your relationship with your husband to find that fulfillment rather than bringing in things from the outside. It only clouds the issues. A baby doesn't stay a baby for very long. Kids grow up. They are an added responsibility that only takes time away from the time spent with your spouse. It's time that you need for working on the relationship.

When your kids grow up and leave home, all you'll have is your spouse. Best get to work making that a strong relationship so that you won't be strangers when the kids are gone. Don't expect a pregnancy to make you more loving. ACT that way NOW. It goes for hubby, too.