youOme,

No matter what a marriage turns out to be, the best thing about it was the children that it produced.

However, a baby only adds more stress to your lives. It will not make you love one another again. Why would you even entertain the notion when you say that you don't want another child right now.

If you're both aware that your marriage is "empty and loveless" then see a councelor. Work on your marriage or work on moving on with your lives. If babies could fix marriages, then the divorce rate wouldn't be 50% these days.

Please be aware that I do not give the advice to move on lightly. It is soley based upon previous threads of physcial and verbal abuse. It is my opinion that people give up on their marriages entirely too easy these days. But abuse negates further work and your own well-being and that of your children must come first.