(((((Debbie)))))

You keep saying what a good person he is, but he doesn't sound like a good person. I know I'm critical, but damn, you're the one giving everything up, he's happy as a clam. Things go his way and you're left to deal with the messes.

It's so wonderful that you've found a new lease on life, and if hubby isn't willing to grow up and be a part of it, cut him loose! Let someone else deal with his childishness.

You've got to do what will make you happy and content, right now he appears to be a stone around your neck and you're swimming upstream against the current.

Please do whatever it is that makes you happy and healthy. You seem to feel guilty for being frustrated with a jerk!