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Originally Posted by hvert
That sounds like a really good solution. I hope he takes you up on it. He needs support but also independence at that age, esp. if the relationship is already tense. You need to feel safe and happy in your own home.
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Thank you hvert and thanks to all the people who responded to this call for advise. It did help me work out what i was comfortable with. My psychiatrist also agrees it was the best decision. Now it is up to him and he can live with the consequences of his decision. He is unhappy with me every time we talk and I think he would mostly ignore me or be hostile if he were in my house at this time.
He says I am violating his boundaries by giving him advise when he doesn't want advise but I feel that if he is asking me to change my living situation then I can offer him alternative solutions.
He says any advise I offer him or suggestions is triggering for him and that I am responsible for his anxiety disorder because of the way I raised him.