My Ts have all been skilled and together enough to hear and see me almost all of the time. When they have missed it, I tell them and they have corrected it. But that has only been maybe a half dozen times in 10 years.

There have been lots of times where they have asked me to explain something that they are not getting. I think that is fine. Or asked if I was saying ... and not had it quite right. I think that is fine, also. But I definitely feel like they are trying to understand me and keep their stuff out of the way.

I have had Ts say to me that they are caught up in their past or their feelings about an event, but they have said that on their own, without me having to point it out and without me feeling ignored in the process. Last night T3 asked about my church's teaching about sex, saying that she had in mind that churches teach sex is for procreation only. I said that was not what my church teaches and she was fine with that. I suppose a blank slate T would not have said that, but the interaction was fine with me.