We're both 25 and been together for 4 yrs. I don't have a problem with tattoos (he got 6 on his arms since we've been together) as long as it's not excessive. He even promised me he wouldn't get anymore after getting a very large one on his arm. But, he's been arguing with me for the past several months on and off over getting a tattoo on his face and throat. I told him how I'm not too comfortable with him getting it in those spots and have been pleading with him to get it anywhere else. At first I asked him if he can keep his tattoos to arms only, but compromised to anywhere else, but face/throat. I should also mention he's in between jobs and looking for one right now who I feel will make it so much harder for his job hunting.

He's so deadest on it and I found out today he made a consultation for tomorrow. I'm pretty hurt that he did this behind my back, especially since we've been arguing about it so much lately. He always apologized after we argue and even at times he told me he decided to get it elsewhere, but just goes right back to wanting it again and arguing. I sometimes feel like he just likes arguing for the sake of arguing. He will drag an argument about this right when I get home from a long day of work for hours! His mom is also against it.

I completely understand it's his body, but what's bothering me is that he asks me if it's okay first and when I tell him I'm uncomfortable about it, he'll just basically keep whining about how he wants it and even went as far to say my opinions/reasons against it were stupid. What's really irking me is that there have been so many times that I've wanted to do certain things (cosmetic included) and he told me he was uncomfortable with it and would prefer I didn't. One of those was even about a small tattoo that he told me he preferred I chose a different spot to get it done. Each time I've respected him and agreed right away to his wishes or at least compromised because I would never want to make him uncomfortable. We live together and plan to get married so I feel it's very hurtful that he can't even do the same for me and respect my wishes especially since I've compromised with him. Instead he keeps basically whining about it for hours thinking I'll give in. It's not really even about the tattoo so much at this point. It's more that I feel like I'm willing to constantly respect him when it comes to making sure he's comfortable or compromise in this relationship, but he's not doing that with me. I've tried to explain that to him, but he keeps insisting it's not a big deal and not really acknowledging a lot of things I've sacrificed for him. At the end today after a big argument I told him to just do whatever he wanted, but I would be upset. He's still trying to fully convince me and I'm getting honestly tired of this. Any advice ):?