I am a female with a male T. I had a lot of problems with this at first and it was really bothering me because I did have a big sexual issue that I wanted to talk with him about. This was mainly a problem for me, though, because I have a massive erotic transference thing going on... so to discuss with him why I was having so much trouble talking about sex of any kind was nearly impossible. Finally, one day it just came out and I said, "I can't talk about sex because if I talk about sex that might mean I really want to have sex with you!!" Geez. He replied with, "Well it only took you two years to say it." After this, things got a lot easier-- both with discussing general sexual issues and my sexual issues regarding him. If you are not experiencing any sort of sexual attraction or feeling towards your T then I would say just start out talking about how you don't want to talk about it. That's always the best thing-- analyze the resistance. I also felt as though talking about sex meant that we were crossing boundaries. You need to figure out why this is. Call this to the attention of your T-- it is up to him to help ensure that those boundaries are safe for both of you and will NOT be crossed by talking.