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I never see female therapists for fear of trying to get what I never received from my mother. I only see males which does cause me other issues like the desire to be protected and saved but I never want them to come close to hold my hand, hug me or wipe my tears. That would send me crawling up the walls or feel obligated to have sex as I did in my younger years. I felt obligated to have sex with any man that was nice to me or helped me. Weird.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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