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It's more that I feel like I'm willing to constantly respect him when it comes to making sure he's comfortable or compromise in this relationship, but he's not doing that with me.
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I'd have to agree with you that, from what you've told us he is not making reasonable compromises with you. He is not even keeping the promises that he does make.
It seems that "compromise", in his mind, involves getting entirely what he wants, plus, in this situation, your
approval of it (he is still trying to "fully convince" you).
You wanted his tattoos on arms only, but the "compromise" was his
entire body except his face/throat, which he now wants.
That is not compromise.
Last month, with a lot of effort, you put together a lovely gift for him. Perhaps the gift was over-the-top for his taste, but from what you said in your other recent thread the "compromise" was for him to utterly reject the gift and ask you to cancel it.
That is not compromise.
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I've tried to explain that to him, but he keeps insisting it's not a big deal and not really acknowledging a lot of things I've sacrificed for him.
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In other words, he does not take in and try to fully understand your perspective. The "compromise" when the two of you have contrasting points of view seems to be that he out-and-out dismisses your point of view.
That is not compromise.
I'm also struck by the way that, on and on, he whines and badgers.
From what you've told us, he doesn't compromise, he feels free to break promises, he doesn't respect your ideas, he whines and carries on like a child. Are you sure that he has the maturity to be a suitable marriage partner?