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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
I think this is more than a silent treatment and it is definitely more than the need to be in control. Just the fact that he thinks he can talk to you as the following: "must now take the consequences of your behaviour" is very disrespectful. This is a red flag that should not be ignored.
Please allow me to ask you. Why do you want to be with someone who is intentionally causing you pain? He knows that you are suffering, yet he is choosing to speak to you in the above manner and continues to ignore you. Is this how your soul mate behaves?
You think that your life will be over if he leaves you and that is probably because he has a very dominant personality and has held the control. I really wish you would want to break free from this.
I am sorry but his behavior (and your acceptance of it) is very concerning.
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Thank you. Yes I understand that question.
It is because somewhere I feel that he is sick, and that I have caused him to feel bad.
But you are right. My soul mate should not have written that, even it has history behind the feelings.
Amd I did write that it was not OK to write that , especially sinse I just have buried a parent the day Before but he could probably not see his own behaviour, just my "disrespectful" behaviour. Yes I am bit angry now, my Days goes from angry to heartbroken back and forth.
Thanks for pointing that out like the other wise people, the problem is not the silence treatment it is something more.
But I need him to stop this to be able to talk to him even if we break up.