I was with my fiancé and talking to my ex yesterday. We were letting my ex know we were going to match the kids salaries to help them start their lives. I am going to sell my house soon, that I got in my divorce settlement. My ex started saying that was all fine but why didn't I now pay for my daughter's university since I would be richer than him with the house money. I am already letting him off most of the things he agreed to pay for in our settlement. He started telling me what an awful person I was. I feel like we are endlessly divorcing. I started off by hating my ex for the hurt and ended up hating myself. It is so hard to believe someone could say I was so awful and for it to not be true. I know I am okay, but having hate in the room is like bullets flying and often I don't feel like superman.