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Old Mar 01, 2018, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted by mostlylurking View Post
Honestly, your T's behavior seems a little bit like someone who's been hurt or had someone break up with them, and then runs across the person later on. You've said that he seemed to openly care for you before, and I'm wondering if that attachment was indeed quite strong on his side and that's why he didn't take it well when you took a break? I am by no means suggesting you did anything wrong in taking a break. It's certainly not your responsibility as a client to worry about hurting your T's feelings if you take time off. I just wonder if he's gone into some sort of self-protective mode. When you said you'd missed him and he looked away, my intuition would say he didn't want his own feelings to be pulled forward, he didn't want to admit he had missed you too. And it feels like he might be punishing you for leaving, by making you leave right on the dot, even if he started late.

If it were me I think I might ask questions about how he felt about the break. If he's forthcoming and honest about his feelings maybe there's a way to move forward in a warmer fashion. If he stonewalls you then maybe there won't be much room for improving things. I hope that something can change for you in this therapy relationship.
I was thinking something similar, that maybe he was upset by you abruptly taking a break, even though it's completely your place to do that as a client, and you shouldn't have to worry about the T's feelings. Just thinking that could possibly be coming into play here.
Thanks for this!
NativeSky