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Old Mar 01, 2018, 11:13 PM
NativeSky NativeSky is offline
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Originally Posted by mostlylurking View Post
Honestly, your T's behavior seems a little bit like someone who's been hurt or had someone break up with them, and then runs across the person later on. You've said that he seemed to openly care for you before, and I'm wondering if that attachment was indeed quite strong on his side and that's why he didn't take it well when you took a break? I am by no means suggesting you did anything wrong in taking a break. It's certainly not your responsibility as a client to worry about hurting your T's feelings if you take time off. I just wonder if he's gone into some sort of self-protective mode. When you said you'd missed him and he looked away, my intuition would say he didn't want his own feelings to be pulled forward, he didn't want to admit he had missed you too. And it feels like he might be punishing you for leaving, by making you leave right on the dot, even if he started late.
YES! A thousand times yes! I have felt precisely this. Ever since I resumed therapy it feels like he is punishing me for taking a break. I can't shake that feeling and I somehow feel like I deserve it and need to prove that I will not stop again.

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Originally Posted by mostlylurking View Post
If it were me I think I might ask questions about how he felt about the break. If he's forthcoming and honest about his feelings maybe there's a way to move forward in a warmer fashion. If he stonewalls you then maybe there won't be much room for improving things. I hope that something can change for you in this therapy relationship.
My anxiety is sky high but, yes, I will bring this up tomorrow because I've hit my limit. I can't continue like this. As painful as it will be to never see him again, I know that for my own wellbeing I can't continue like this.
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kecanoe, LonesomeTonight, mostlylurking, satsuma
Thanks for this!
Anonymous45127, kecanoe