Well we talked and decided that the loud arguing was definitely something we shouldn't do because even though we like to watch Cops, we don't want to end up on the show. I talked to him about family function behavior and I can't get it across that just because no one else got upset doesn't mean you're off the hook. I was upset that he fell asleep at my grandfather's birthday party. I have worked nights and came to a few of his functions with six or less hours of sleep beforehand and even though I wasn't talkative and tired I kept myself from falling asleep. It sucked but I did because I love him and he expects me to be on my best behavior in front of his family. He thinks because my mom wasn't mad or the guest of honor was that he's scot free. I told him that if I am to be on my best and sober behavior I expect him to be on his. Work in progress bit thanks guys.