I wish for you and your husband to be well, "Imnotaturtle." If I may say so, I also like your username... I also like turtles!

Would you be so kind as to explain why you are of the opinion that your husband "is having a difficult time coping?"

You seem to be being too harsh on yourself. You and your husband also seem to have a relationship that also consists of him as your support team (and vice versa,) which is magnificent. If you are attempting to find additional support, this forum and website seem to be most accommodating and supportive as Christina typed. I came here for support as well and found this community to be incredibly kind and supportive.