Hi crushed, I am no longer with her....I talked to her over the phone but would not consider meeting up with her again. Our relationship has been done since last Saturday.

Yes, everything you brought up about emotional abuse, narcissism has crossed my mind...

She snaps, insults me, I get upset, and then she blames me at the end of a dispute.

And oh my g..... she did exactly this hoovering thing to me. She tried to be concerned and asked me if I was ok and said she was worried about me....then went straight to insults. I have an email from her that did just that.....