This is an example of how you and I don’t understand each other. I’m talking about control over one’s own energy and time and effort. To me spending my time and energy worrying about and trying to figure out some therapist’s bizarro rules about **** I just wouldn't do. The control over my energy.

But I’m not a big texter to begin with and I don’t text with my own clients or with students. I don’t like texts interrupting me and I don’t feel a need to answer them immediately unless it’s somebody I know and like who’s a friend. Texts feel intrusive to me. I don’t like setting up a dynamic of expectation of immediacy on the part of those I don’t think really it fits for. I would hate if a therapist started texting me for no good reason except in a major emergency