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Originally Posted by starrysky
That's a good question. Is it a newer wound? I think that what you said "do you even get past it?" has some value and truth to it. I myself still have yet to get over two things happening in 2016. Sometimes, in my experience, you learn to manage it and deal with it, but it's an experience that will always be with you. I think your anger and negative feelings about it will go down though.
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Any idea how long before the anger/other negativity even STARTS to go down?
Are you feeling much better since 2016? (I hope so.)
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Thanks for clearing up any questions I'd had in your response to me. Yeah I missed seeing that you are actually in therapy now. 
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No worries!
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I have been hurt (and betrayed) before too. You're not alone. I do see there being hope beyond the dark clouds you're feeling now.  If I think of anything else, I will come back here and mention it. Buddhism and meditation have been big influences in my life. If you have any interest in it, let me know. There's a book called "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron that you might find beneficial.
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Thanks for the kind words and the recommendation.
I've downloaded the book now, looking this sentence caught my eye:
"To stay with that shakiness - to stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge - that is the path of true awakening. Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic - this is the spiritual path."
I already know how to relax very well if I decide I need to. (No, I don't do meditation practices. I just know how to calm my body without much of a tool. But this only works with issues that are not people related. That's (not people stuff) where I'm alright with being calm in the midst of chaos. Because I have a way to find the steps to take to solve the issue.
With people no idea for that...