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Originally Posted by starrysky
I think its different for everybody, the length of time.
And yes I DO feel better! It is still a bad memory. But it is a manageable one.
ps: by telling these people you don't want them in your life, etc, I think you did the right thing! You set a necessary boundary.
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Glad you feel better. I'm still curious how long it took you... a year?
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I think that with that book, it can really be applied to any kind of negative emotion regardless of if the situation has people in it or not. I hope it helps.
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Yeah, the thing is I would have to change my entire outlook on things. I would have to stop caring about things like justice and fair behaviour to avoid judging people's behaviour and treatment towards me (and towards others, too), and instead be all calm and mindful and accepting. I'm not trying to argue with you BTW, just thinking aloud about why this doesn't seem to work for me with people.
I might've misunderstood the idea with these ideas in the book though... Feel free to correct me if it's not like that. Just currently it doesn't compute for me: finding fairness important yet staying calm and unaffected if someone does bad treatment?