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Originally Posted by TeaVicar?
I think you should just ask him and don't let it rest until you get an explanation that you feel ok with. All of the suggestions above are possible. Do you feel any guilt for having the break? Maybe there's some counter-transference on his part and he's responding to your guilt on some level. Maybe there's some other reason why he feels the need to maintain such firm boundaries. Either way if it's a problem for you, you need to bring it up.
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I did feel guilty for taking the break and I felt like a quitter for needing to stop when the going got tough. But I'm slowly, very slowly, learning to be gentle with myself, and realize that I just needed time away from therapy for a bit.
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Originally Posted by TeaVicar?
I stopped trying to be 'good' a while ago and found my therapist to be much more engaging. Now I try to annoy him occasionally, just for fun. Gently pushing boundaries can be frightening but fun too sometimes. He can also be rigid and unhelpful at times but is always willing to talk about it.
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I have a feeling this is what's going on with me. Me trying to be so good, a perfect client, is getting in the way. And that's exactly what I'm longing for, for him to be more engaging, and not have it feel like I'm being watched from behind a glass, bulletproof, wall.
I've thought of messing with him on purpose by just going in there and sitting in his chair and not say word and see how'd he react. But I'm not that brave. Maybe some day.