((((((( sweetpea )))))))))

Welcome to PC and good for you for making your first post. I'm sure you had some anxiety in doing so but you did good!

What you are explaining regarding your fiances behavior is screaming loud and clear that he is controlling and has no compassion whatsoever for you and probably anyone else.

Anyone who would turn up the music and put a kind of music you dislike when you felt a migraine coming on was cruel.....very cruel.

These things are NOT trivial. They are a sign of things to come....that they will get worse as the relationship progresses. If you are feeling isolated and vulnerable now, you will feel even worse down the road.

There are plenty of other attorneys out there that treat individuals with more respect than this guy can muster in his whole lifetime.

Whenever you find you loose yourself in a relationship...that is a HUGE wakeup call. In any relationship, each should be equal and it's obvious from your post, you are feeling far from equal.

You do have a couple of options here. One is to put your foot down and refuse to be treated like this anymore and see how he takes it. Two, you can tell him in no uncertain terms that your relationship is through or three, you can continue down this road you are on to a place I can guarentee you do not want to go.

There are many other things I could say about your situation...and I know I don't know much, but, I've lived where you are now and I know how hard it is to get away from it before you completely loose yourself and cannot even begin to see yourself again. Hon, it's all about HIM. Do you really want to live your life doing his bidding and completely ignoring yourself?

I'm sorry if my post has come off like I'm attacking your fiance. I'm not doing that. I'm trying to explain to you that his behaviors warrant some action on your part. And soon I hope, for your own sake.

The fact that you are questioning his actions is telling you something! Listen to your gut instinct...it will not steer you wrong!

I wish you well sweetpea.....take good care of YOU.


sabby