Hi Mckell,
Thanks for responding.

I have actually read the Fallout book and it was definitely right on the mark. In fact, I have read alot of books and gone to many group sessions that support this line of thinking.

My problem is in incorporating it into our lives. Like you said, my husband has alot of denial over its impact. Mostly stemming from his anxiety of having a diagnosis in the first place. I get that. I truly do. But what I am tired of overlooking is his refusal to see its impact on me. On us. On the family.

I don't know how to get the "background" info of the T. Other than being referred to him, how can I know if he is good with depression or not?

As for T support. This guy does seem to support my position in relation to my husbands behaviors. We have talked about it several times on an individual basis when my husband wouldnt' go to therapy. But when we got there together today, he said he wanted to take the depression out of the equation. That it was a non subject as far as our "couples therapy" was concerned. I don't get that. When I questioned it, he didn't supply a satisfatory answer.