Hmmm, it does sound strict but it also sounds like you expect a lot for nothing in return. You freely mention your own questionable behaviour yet seem incredulous to being held accountable. The more difficult and flagrant the behaviour the stronger the expectations and limits will be placed upon you. As for your apparent expectation your parents give you money, this is not a right rather something earned. I ask in what way are you doing so. That you are frustrated is understandable but you have got to take your own responsibility into account. Yes it seems their parenting style could use some direction but they are not alone in this questionable behaviour. If you want to see positive change, garnering their respect is the way to do so.