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Old Mar 03, 2018, 05:18 AM
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Originally Posted by NativeSky View Post
I've thought about pointing it out so many times, but I chicken out every time.

For the past 6 months, I have constantly thought about finding a new T, but my attachment to him is something that I have never experienced before in my life. It's intense. Had a rupture recently. Working on that. I keep thinking maybe we can work through it. That I can't quit something yet again. I don't want to be a quitter anymore. That if I work through this with him, I'll be a better person for it. But I just don't know. . .I don't know.
It seems your dilemma hinges on punitive labels and assumptions, quitter, this self-imposed burden to mend the rupture. It sounds like a harsh imposition overseeing you.

I did myself great damage perceiving therapy as some sort of moral imperative, some purification I must undergo to be worthy. So my irrationality kept me too long with an arrogant, unskilled, disdainful therapist team that disliked me and did great hurt. My self-assignment to make it work with them only did damage.

Therapy is supposed to lighten our loads, not impose more burdens, despair, shame or drama. And it’s no more a moral obligation than going to the allergist or hairdresser.
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