I get what you're trying to convey in your replies to OP
The constant turmoil over texting/emailing/phone calls/extra appointments/how long a wait is reasonable to expect a response/quality and length and tone of response is exhausting just reading about it
In uk this level/flexibility of outside contact is extremely rare and for me is restricted to scheduling and twice in 4 years when I felt that a rupture needed describing from my perspective so that my therapist had an idea of how the following session might go where I was coming from etc like preparation for many other situations in life
I do feel it would be good to be able to contact outside session often but I know that I would either receive no response(for days if it was a Friday)or a formulaic unicorn fart of a response or a sorry to hear that we can talk about it next session -he just wouldn't engage with me-but I know that if I really needed help he would offer to call me (once in 4 years) as I don't ask or expect anything outside of session
It seems that therapists who encourage /foster the degree and variety of outside contact that is discussed on the forum are causing untold misery dependence and unrealistic expectations from their clients and I may get shot down for this but the extreme cases might be borderline abuse