I’ve been seeing my T for nearly 4 years, most of that at a high frequency. I think there have been a few different ways my T has “hurt my feelings”.

1) inadvertently hitting on a sensitive or tender place in me via humor or off-handed remarks.
2) labeling something in me in a static way.
3) assigning negative intent

In any given relationship with there is some amount of vulnerability, I think some amount of hurt feelings is inevitable. The big deal has been learning that I can bring those feelings back in and we can work through it. While my T hasn’t said sorry, she has worked really hard to understand what was hurtful and help me be curious as to why. What was it about that comment, on that day? What old patterns are being repeated? What is the something new to work towards? For the record, I think I’ve hurt her feelings st least once.