una, these are interesting questions.

Do you mean do the things the t says to me hurt my feelings?

Not really. She's pretty good at being direct and clear in what she's got to say, and I am mostly good at receiving whatever it is. But I think my t is careful about how she gives feedback because she understands the ways that my filter got skewed in the first place.

And yes. It is harder for me when she doesn't quite understand what I am saying. Misinterprets, doesn't quite "get it," a session goes sideways because I'm talking apples and and her feedback is about oranges. It doesn't hurt my feelings in the traditional sense, where I feel criticized, but it's frustrating and feels invalidating.

I don't know whether it's good or bad, or okay or not okay. It just is. It would be freaky if we had some kind of mind meld and my t was always on the same page and always said exactly the right thing, I guess. Often, in mentally sorting through where the misunderstanding lies, I get more insight and clarity than I might have if she'd just nodded and "got me."