I have a family member who has had a rough 5 years and I feel helpless because I domt know where to start. Hes about 30 now and 6 years ago he suffered a TBI that cause some lingering issues. He dealt with that woth medications and therapy and still womt really factor it into todays situation.. It seems to me like he sees it as an excuse?

At the time of the tbi, hos daighter was 1 and he was recently promoted and doing well. He was again promoted in 2014 and a busy person and very axtive father and then things turned relentless. Before he was promoted in 2014 , he came out and said that he and his fiance were splitting up and was very upset. Turms out they hadnt been sleeoing in the same room since the baby was born and he bacame very worried that they were portrayomg a bad image the little girl. He just said that it wasnt right to "show" his daighter that basically Moms and Dads that dont sleep in the same room, touch or spemd time together.

He was what I thought was "too scared" that she would grow up with a bad depictiom of love and family and that she would have learned by experiemce that this is love and marriage. So they arranged the living situation and made things work as best they could a couple months later, he started dating and I never saw his new friend before he headed off for a trip to see his friemd - it was my nephews birthday and he wemt to visit his best friend.

When he returned , his daughter and her mother had gone back to visit her mothet in her home state and after 2 weeks, he was served paperwork that she was filing for custody in her home state. The next 4 months, she would t allow him to see his daughter and rarely let them talk. What she did caused a mountaim for him with work and having to fight all this.

Over the next year he won full custody and is an amazing dad that is another level of close to his daughter. Over the nezt 2 years, she took him back to court to argue custody 3 times and he was a wreck every time and almost frightemed at times that Id never seen out of him. After the 3rd time the court ruled for her to stay with her Dad, his therapist preaceibed him a steong medication called zanex stating that he believa he has ptsd. His dayghter visitied her mom 2 months later and after she ledt, he jist lost it.

He got a dui for the zanex and lost his job. The mother had filed for another hearing before the dui occurred. He represented himself and was honest ans submitted drug tests but ultimately the judge gave joint custody and his daughter went to live with her mom. Its been 6 months that shes been gone and the only thing he does routinely is call his duagter before achool and before bed.

Meanwhile he isnt working, lost his insurance and lost his savings and is living with me. He is a smart man and he seems lost and broken but trying to digure out how to cope and understand. We have a small family and wr are close and I recemtly learned that his grandmother and aunt showed up to the original court proceedings and sat with the mother and hadmt spoken to him simce the mother kidnapped the duaghter

I have felt that he wasnt trying until I asked him amd he gave me a notebook that detailed what happened from his perspective. It was heart breaking and I lve warxhed him try to get back to being himself for 7 months and he is confused and hurt and has no friends that call him or come see him. He hasnt made a huge edfort to see people but just a year ago, he was like the mayor and then overnight he was a liner. He didnt grow up here and his mind is 10p percent focused on moving to where his daughter is.

Im worried that he could be in real trouble if he leave s without starting to get help. Hes trying to do it himself and I have no Idea what to tell him. I would really appreciate some guidance on how to stsrt helpimg him. He doesnt trust psychiatrists and said to me that psychology is so itnerestimg but in the end he trieds to study it hims3lf and is exercising and meditating quite a bit

Can someone please point me in a direction. He is a great dad , smart man and anymore it just looks like he isnt himself and he is confused how that happened and honestly looks mortified sometimes. I think he feels abandoned and ashamed and like he failed his daughter and blames himself too harshly, I think.

Please help me help him or help me by givimg me some advice to relay to him. If you have amy thoughts please email me and if you are a psychologist and want more backstory on him, hes had a life that deserves a little help when hes down. Thank you in advance if you decide to help me .