Hi Jay.

Whether you are gay or bi or straight or pansexual is something that YOU will decide/know when you allow yourself to experience things. We all have different sex drives and sexuality is a wide field, too wide to be kept under labels.

Lol None of us would be here if our makers hadn't had sex.

I'm sorry that you worry about other people's perceptions of your sexuality, though, and that it makes you afraid of it, because it's your business and nobody else's.

One thing that might help you decide is the kind of image/fantasy that makes you feel good when you're pleasuring yourself.

Sexual pleasure is a wonderful gift that nature has bestowed upon us humans. When you realize that, it will probably make it easier for you to come to terms with your wants and needs.

Please, try not to punish yourself, though. Please try not to let your godsend sexuality overcome who YOU are. Who you are is not to be determined by who you sleep with.

Best wishes.

(what's so funny about peace, love and understanding?)