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Originally Posted by shattered sanity
so we post all the time about how we get annoyed when someone uses the body's name when talking to us, or they use the body's birthday rather than ours
recently we've been struggling with a new issue:. that issue being, being asked about the body, about the past, about their official information (bank details etc), about their life (not ours, the body's life), about all sorts of things.
the person who owns the body is never in control, and none of us feel okay about discussing that person behind their back (which may sound weird, but you get what we're saying)
some of us don't even know the relevant information... this information (or most of it), are for forms we have to fill out, so we really need to provide it, but yeah
it's not just a click and you have it type sinario
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with me when ever I got triggered by something the alter who's sense of agency it was to deal with those issues did....
example Hug - a - lot (just snatching a name out of the air here) handled money matters so if there was a question on a form about money hug a lot provided that info
Thelma handled answering the phone so she is the one that wrote the phone number on the form.
line in the sand my alters all had their own sense of agency and amount of co consciousness with me and the others. those that didnt still knew somehow when I was dissociated and that they needed to take control and do what ever their sense of agency was. Someone somewhere had the info needed whether or not they talked about me. Also since it was one whole body when they were answering questions about me and my life it was their life too. i mean its not like I could just leave Rainy at the neighbors house when I went to a movie or thelma leave me behind at home watching tv while she was out on a date. its all one body so what was ones life was also everyone elses life.
when Red was in school so were everyone else all one body, when rainy was sitting on the couch, so were everyone else.
also it isnt like i just became DID one day in college for a college assignment of doing a psych eval and enter therapy. I became DID before I was 5 years old due to extreme trauma. so whether I or the others liked it or not, our whole lives has been the alters answering questions, doing things, when a teacher asked a question in elementary school someone answered when I was dissociated, in college the same thing, at work the same thing, out with friends as a teen the same thing.... a whole life time of the alters taking control when ever I dissociated and doing what their sense of agency was...
my point is somehow some way there was always someone who would take control and do those forms, answer the questions.
maybe you can ask inside to find out how this situation has been handled all your whole life time since the very first alter creation. then you can ask inside to the appropriate alters for more help in doing these forms that you need to do, more help in answering questions....